Setting Boundaries in Your Relationship

Setting boundaries in a relationship is important. It helps to ensure that both people are comfortable and know what is expected of them. These can also help to prevent any misunderstandings or hurt feelings. 

A practical way to set boundaries effectively is by following the advice from Zara from the Couple's Couch with sticking to the 4 C’s.

1. Clarity

Communicate your boundaries clearly. Don’t give your partner room to argue or debate your boundary. It is your boundary, and you are the person that gets to set it.

2. Consistency

You want to keep the way you communicate your boundary consistently. Changing the wording and not holding the other person accountable for not respecting your boundary can lead to your partner being confused and unsure of how to respect your boundary.

3. Compassion

Communicate your boundary with empathy and respect, and give your partner the time to learn it and figure out how to respect it.

4. Consequence

Let your partner know the consequences of not respecting or pushing your boundary. Don’t use this as a way to threaten your partner or issue an ultimatum, but to convey how important this boundary is to you and how far you are willing to go to respect it.

Staying consistent, communicating clearly and compassionately about your boundary, and letting people know the consequences of not respecting them can help your partner learn to respect your boundary. 

Understand Each Other's Boundaries

Taking the couples quizzes in Couply app as well as answering the couples questions is a great way of exploring each other's boundaries and getting aligned on what's needed.

Examples of Healthy Boundaries in a Relationship

There are many different types of healthy boundaries that can be present in a relationship. It is important to have these boundaries in place to maintain a healthy relationship dynamic.

One type of healthy boundary is emotional boundaries. This means that each person in the relationship is able to maintain their own emotional state and well-being. Each person is responsible for their own emotions and should not try to control the emotions of their partner.

In a healthy relationship, boundaries help maintain a sense of individuality while still allowing for closeness and intimacy. Having separate lives outside of the relationship is important, and each person should be able to pursue their own interests and hobbies. At the same time, it's important to be able to rely on and be there for your partner when needed.

It's normal to have some disagreements and arguments in a relationship, but it's important to be able to resolve them in a healthy way. Each person should be able to express their feelings and needs without fear of judgement or criticism. It's also important to be able to apologize and forgive when needed.

Overall, normal boundaries in a healthy relationship help create a sense of balance and allow both partners to feel comfortable and secure!

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Zara: My Ottowa Therapist