Talking about having sex in new places with your partner may either get you excited or nervous, or a little bit of both.
Wherever you’re at, we’re going to try to get you a little more excited and willing to try things with your partner within your comfort zone.
Now, we know that not everyone has the same level of comfort when it comes to exploring sex in new places. We’ll help you look at the different levels so you and your partner can decide which fit works best for both of you. Keep communication open and be honest about your interests and fantasies. Remember that respecting boundaries ensures that you and your partner both feel safe which creates more willingness for future exploration.
Having sex in new places is an exciting way to spice up your sex life. The thrill of a new spot or environment can be a great way to tap into your sexual fantasies. There are plenty of ways and places to explore that are conducive to your comfort level. Make sure you and your partner have checked out the Risk Style Quiz on Couply to see where you’re at and talk with each other about your results. While some couples may feel most comfortable trying new things in their bedroom or other familiar spots, others may want to test out new places.
Spicing up the Bedroom:
The bedroom is preferred by most as a great place to explore fantasies and try new things. Here you can get creative with different positions and techniques in a relaxed space and your toys and lube are all within reach. You and your partner have had a lot of fun in this room and some really sexy things have happened here. But maybe your bedroom has some potential to be used in a way that you haven’t yet given it credit for. Along with setting the mood with lighting or music, try rearranging pillows on the bed to try different positions, angles, or get a better view from the mirror. Make use of the walls, your dresser, your desk, the desk chair, or the floor just to name a few fun suggestions.
The risk level for trying new things in the bedroom is low but the excitement level can still be high. Unless you have other dwellers in your house that you may need to be mindful of, all you need to focus on is each other’s pleasure.
Exploring the House:
If you and your partner are wanting to keep some of the comforts of the bedroom close but open the door to trying some new places, see what the rest of the house has to offer. You have your sexy undies, lube, toys and bedroom accessories handy but you can bring them with you to different spaces. You and your partner have probably started making out on the couch at one point, and moved to the bedroom. Next time, why not skip moving to the bedroom and keep going with that foreplay on the couch. The kitchen is a great place to get spicy. There are some great surfaces there to get on or up against, and if you want to experiment with food, you’ve got it all right there. The office has a great desk and that office chair has got to be useful for something. If you’re both comfortable with it, turn the computer on and include a little extra stimulation. The tub or shower is a great place for you and your partner to get naughty and as messy as you like. It’s also a great space for added privacy if your space is shared and you don’t want to run the risk of being seen if your housemates return home unexpectedly.
Getting frisky in the different rooms of your home keeps the risk level low, especially if you aren’t having to share your space. Risk increases a little if you are having to share your space, but there are rooms to explore to keep things exciting but be discreet (even if your housemates have a hunch what you’re up to). Be sure to discuss comfort levels with your partner if the space is shared to make sure they feel content. Other than that, see what rooms and surfaces you can get creative with and relax and get kinky in the comfort of your own home.
Getting Out but Keeping Private:
Getting out of the house to consider some new private options is a great way to heat things up between you and your partner. Sure, you might have to pack a few extra things to make the excursion, but it will be worth it. Some great private places to get busy away from home would be a hotel or staying in a cabin or tent in the wilderness. Planning getaways with your partner is an excellent way to take time apart to build intimacy and to focus on exploring untapped sexual fantasies. Just the act of getting out of your usual space can add an extra level of excitement.
For those of you wanting to remain mostly private but increase the risk a little bit, you can try parking your car away in a secluded area at night. The feeling like you’re sneaking out and hiding adds heightened excitement. What about a boat in the middle of the lake? Or joining the mile high club and slipping out to the washroom on a long flight?
Getting out of the house increases the risk factor, but there are a few things for you and your partner to consider. If you’re thinking of an overnight or multi-day trip, like camping, a hotel, or overseas, you will need to plan ahead to pack a few extra sexy things you would like to explore with out there. But if you and your partner are thinking of a local date night to get out and get daring, consider the things that you might need to bring since you’re leaving the comforts of home and you won’t have everything handy. Things like blankets, lube, toys, condoms, and sorry to spoil the sexiness here, but quick clean up items like some wipes. Once you’re all packed, get out and get frisky!
Having sex in daring new places is a great way for you and your partner to feel a sense of freedom and let go of inhibitions. There is something about the risk of being caught that can really turn you on. You and your partner can create your own fantasy world and explore different scenarios. You may still want some level of privacy away from the general public such as having sex in the secluded woods, a field or an abandoned building. There still is that excitement you might get caught but it’s a much less chance. However, if you are the type of person who likes high risk, pretty much anywhere is up for discreet play. You probably have desires to see where you and your partner can get naughty without getting caught. Maybe it’s on a picnic by the lake, on the beach, the movie theater, or in the back of the taxi on the ride home from the restaurant. Have fun challenging yourself to see what you can get away with.
Getting frisky in public should be approached with caution. Make sure you and your partner are aware of your surroundings and be wise not to expose yourself or get caught. There are some places away from the general public where you can get a little more risky in regards to exposure, since it’s unlikely anyone will discover you. But in more public settings, you will need to find ways to be discreet about your doings. Plan to wear certain clothing or have some sort of covering like a blanket or a jacket to minimize revealing what’s going on. Make sure you also have an exit plan should you get into an unwanted situation. If you play it smart, you can have some deliciously sexy encounters in some very exciting places.
Having sex in new places is a great way for you and partner to spice up your sex life and create new and exciting experiences. It can help make an older relationship feel new, and it can help newer couples learn about each other in more intimate ways. With a little creativity and openness, couples can have amazing, out-of-the ordinary sex experiences. Make the search for new thrills and experiences part of your relationship to keep your sex life hot and healthy!
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